Pending Outside Consultation

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11/13

When the results posted that same day and said “Pending outside consultation” I was both excited and concerned. No mention of cancer, that’s good, but the“outside consultation” concerned me. My mind jumped to “If it was nothing they wouldn’t have sent it out.” “Maybe they are being thorough and making sure they didn’t miss anything” and again, more waiting and more refreshing of the app.

The waiting for results has been the hardest part. I’ve been on top of scheduling everything as fast as I could, getting on wait lists, driving to other hospitals but it’s the loss of control that got me. The only thing I can control in this situation is my availability and willingness to jump over any hurdles in my way.

My mind was on my grandma and her journey and it took a lot to keep my mind from wandering. What if? What next? Then what?

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